Showing posts with label obituary. Show all posts
Showing posts with label obituary. Show all posts

Monday, January 13, 2014

Can you write 1500 words about your life?

“Always live your life with your biography in mind.”
Marisha Pessl, Special Topics in Calamity Physics

Quote from Good Reads

I remember a few years ago conducting a workshop, at rather short notice, when I spoke about the value of writing one's own life story and obituary, and in the time that we had remaining I asked those present to write their own obituary.  I was greeted with a range of strange facial expressions, and most went on to do the exercise. 

I had explained the difference between a death notice, funeral notice and obituary, but I do recall one of those present created her own death notice which was rather freaky.

A number of years ago I set out to create my own obit, but to be honest I didn't finish it and it is somewhere in a host of back up files or in an old computer, but I am "getting on" as they say, and decided, especially as I am trying to encourage others to write their own life story or advanced obituary, decided to do my own. 

Now I know lot of people seem to think it is rather freaky - but in reality I wrote 1300 words about me.  Some things no one else would have written - even if they do know me.  And if it is to be my obituary - the last paragraph has to remain undone until I do "pass on", for it will say that I died on a certain date, perhaps the cause of death, and what family members "survived" me.

It doesn't feel like doom is pending, and I had a lot of fun doing it.  I have chosen not to share it with anyone, and will load it on a CD, with some other material, including all my passwords, bank account details, my last will and testament, and other instructions - for I know I will not live forever, and there is certain satisfaction in knowing that I have completed all these documents, which I will put in a sealed envelope to be opened on my demise - be it death, or near death.  There will be some surprises too!  My lips are sealed.

Just before Christmas I was aghast to see a death notice of someone with the same name as me.  It shocked me - and I was quite "rattled" for a few hours.  I had not known the person, but felt that some people might have read it and thought it was me, especially as I had spent some months living in the same suburb, so I went on Facebook I reported that I was still alive and well!

Can you write your life story in around 1500 words?

If you read this, could you please respond to the poll on the right had side of this post?  Please?

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Useful Life Story Definitions

"It is not histories I am writing, but lives; the most glorious deeds do not always indicate virtue or vice, but a small thing like a phrase or a jest often reveals more of a character than the bloodiest battles." 
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There are some definitions that might be helpful to you if you are exploring the world of Life Story Writing.
 
Bio - this is clearly short for "Biography" - and is often used when talking with a writer or speaker, especially if they have been booked to do a workshop.  The organisers want a short version of their story for publicity and for introduction of the speaker.   
 
I update it regularly - but following is what I send out to folk who are interested in having me as a guest speaker, or have already booked me. 
 
Di always wanted to be a writer, and in fact was first published in the ABC Children’s newspaper when she was at primary school.
But a career in writing was not on the immediate agenda for Di, who after working in a number of offices in Adelaide, trained as a nurse at Mount Gambier Hospital.  Marriage, children, and varied careers followed, before Di started to investigate the writer’s life.
Life stories have always fascinated Di, who used to sit with elderly patients and lament the loss of amazing histories, as most life stories are not recorded.  In 2005, Di started The Official Biographer endeavouring to write these histories, and found herself with a contract to write the story of an Irishman who was born in Ireland in 1925, the same day his mother died.  His story is yet to be published, but there is a film and book contract hovering.
Di completed a degree in Adult and Vocational Teaching at Griffith University in 2002, majoring in literacy and numeracy, and continued working in the training industry, while endeavouring to hone her writing skills. 
She founded the Writers of Wynnum Manly, is a member of the Queensland Writers Centre, and the Queensland Society of Women Writers.
In 2008 Di embarked on a career teaching English to students at universities in China and South Korea, and occasionally teaches foreign students in the Brisbane area. On return from her last sojourn at the Zhejiang Yuexiu University of Foreign Languages at Shaoxing south of Shanghai in 2010, she commenced study at Swinburne University and in September 2012 graduated with a Master of Arts (Writing).
Earlier, Di completed research on the art of writing obituaries. She was a member of the (now defunct) International Society of Professional Obituary Writers.  The link between biographies and obituaries is clear, and Di will be working with people to prepare not only their biographies, but also “advanced obituaries” giving them the opportunity of creating their own obit, or at least giving their families a “heads up” for their eventual demise.
Di is The Official Biographer.
Note:  I get booked for Life Story Writing or Blogging workshops, so will often make changes to the last paragraph to fit the program that I am book into or being considered for.
 
Biography 
 
A biography is the story of the life of someone.  Often it is on chronological form - often with photographs, but with stories that retell the story of their life.    It is written by someone other than the person who is the subject, though he/she may well help with providing the information. 
 
Autobiography
 
The subject of the story writes it.  It is their story, written by them (with a little help from an editor or two!
 
Memoir
This is generally regarded as a story about a time or a particular event or connected series of events in someone's life - usually written in the first person.  I like Wikipedia's explanation
 
Obituary
 
This is a short biography published after the death of someone, detailing their life and achievements.  Usually the last paragraph gives a little information on the date and place of death and the family members who have been left behind.  In some cases it is also the notice of death, but I think more so if the notice of death includes some story of the life of the deceased.
 
Death Notice
 
Most newspapers (paper and online) have a page where people pay to have published the details of the death of someone, and perhaps the details of the funeral notice as well. 
 
Advanced Obituary
 
Particularly for significant people in our communities an obituary is already written in preparation for the death of someone.  Important/famous people - e.g. Queen of England, Prime Ministers, Presidents, top movie stars and sportspeople will already have their story written and ready for publication in the event of their death, so that newspapers can publish the story immediately on the notification of a death.  The research will have been done, the story edited and ready to go - these are updated as time progresses, and when the time comes can be published straight away.
 
Eulogy
 
This is a speech made in praise of someone especially after their death, at their funeral or memorial service.  The writer/speaker of the eulogy often has close personal links with the deceased, and speaks in commendation of that person.  Often the speaker is a family member.
 
 
 
Footnote 1.  Quote from Wikipedia.